In which I talk about Porn



Good morning. (Afternoon? Evening?)
Got your coffee? (tea? or soda?)

Maybe your heart and mind are full because you spent time in worship yesterday, or you’re contemplating a message that spoke to you.
Maybe you spent time with friends or family celebrating the Lunar New Year.
Maybe you’re looking at the week ahead–
Wednesday is the beginning of the Lenten season, preparing our hearts for Easter.
Thursday is Valentine’s Day.

This post is about none of that; today I’m going to talk to you about pornography addiction.

When God gave me the name of this blog–Three Way Light–my thoughts were towards all that God’s light DOES–it warms us, we reflect it and the light of God’s Word reveals hidden things that (we often) don’t know are hiding or we don’t want to deal with.

But our Father brings us to the light to heal us.  When we let him.

My friend Jen Ferguson, SDG Sisterhood founder who blogs at Finding Heaven Today, is writing a book sharing the struggle she and her husband have walked through with his porn addiction. 


Two things have struck me as she’s shared with me about this project:

The first was the comparison of her struggle with food addictions to that of her husband’s addiction to porn. We think there is a hierarchy of ‘sins’–those struggles in our flesh that keep us apart from God.  But when we turn to anything but God to meet our spiritual needs, we are in sin.

I related right away with Jen’s overeating challenges–I struggled with being overweight from the time I was 16 until I had my first child.  Diets never worked to help me lose weight because the issue was never about food.  The emptiness I felt was from deep emotional needs–abandonment and neglect–as a result of being raised in an alcoholic home.  Since I had become a Christian I couldn’t just drink my troubles away so I turned to food.

When I let God begin to help me deal with the pain and emptiness, the food lost its power in my life.

Ann Voskamp says in her book “1,000 Gifts”:

“He means to rename us, to return us to our true names,
 our truest selves.  He means to heal our soul holes.  
He means to fill us with glory again.” (Chapter 1, p.17)

We may have made a decision to follow Jesus and committed our life to Him, attending church, going to Bible Study, serving in Sunday School, you name it.  But Jesus died to redeem every part of us–Spirit, Soul and Body. 

And he can only do that when we bring it to the Light. 

There was something else she wrote that really touched me when I consider those who are in the depths of the porn industry. Quite frankly I am repulsed just to think about it.  But some statistics she shared are turning my heart towards more compassion for those trapped in that business. 

Here is an excerpt from Jen’s work in progress:

“Your war is not against your body.  It is not against porn stars.  It is not against your husband.  It is against the powers of this dark world. 
Shelley Lubben is a former porn star and founder of The Pink Cross Foundation, which seeks to help women get out of the porn industry.  On her website–www.shelleylubben.com–she lists some shocking facts about people in the porn industry:
·         Out of 1,500 performers working in California, 41 people that she knows of have died from AIDS, suicide, homicide and drug related deaths between 2007 and 2011.
·         The average life expectancy of a porn performer is only 37.43 years.  The average American lives to be 78.1 years old.
·         The US adult film industry earns between $9-13 billion annually.  Performers make $400-$1000 per shoot and are not compensated based on distribution or sales.
·         Porn stars are ten times more likely to have STDs.  There are no laws in the porn industry that require performers to be tested for STDs.”
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As believers we are constantly being changed from glory to glory (II Corinthians 3:18) but we have to be turned in the right direction, going towards the light, with outstretched hands that say, 

“Father, I give you all of me….A L L.”

If you or someone you know is struggling with this, Jen would love to chat with you as someone going through this healing process.
You can click on her blog link in this post or email her at jenfergie2000{at}me{dot}com.
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Linking with Michelle for Hear it on Sunday, Use it on Monday
and of course, with the SDG Sisterhood 
and for the first time with Jen 
for Unite! and remembering to reach out to those in need.

9 thoughts on “In which I talk about Porn

  1. Jody, you and I have a lot more in common and need to visit when I'm out there in July. I wasn't an over-eater, but, before the Lord broke into my life, in Seattle, I had become involved in porn… WAS a porn. Knew my dad was a molester in Tacoma, Portland, etc., but recently heard more and more about him and was heartbroken. He also had been an abortionist, in our family, but I heard even more a couple months ago. Nearly broke into tears over it. The good part? He came to the Lord when he was just hitting 60 and died at 65. I came to the Lord when I was 20 in Tacoma, and I have been EXTREMELY anti-porn since then … don't watch almost anything on TV that would be less-than-perfect. Can't risk having anything planted into my mind, heart. When I'm visiting family in Tacoma, especially, that are still involved in much of this [porn, heavy alcohol, drugs], my heart breaks… but I know I'm to be there, to be a God-heart seed-planter. ANYHOW, Jody, as I said, we need to visit. I'll be in your area in at various times between July 6 and 16. Certainly want to spend a day with you again… see your dear ones.

    Thanks so much. You really broke into my heart…

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  2. Nancy, I'm so glad this was helpful to you. If you could add Jen and her husband to your prayers for this writing effort, it would be appreciated. The Enemy wants to keep things in the dark–but we know that God wins!

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  3. Upon reading your post, Jody, I “saw” pornography as a vacuum, pulling in a multitude of victims–not just those who view it, but those who produce it. I never thought about the fact they're victims, too. The statistics you shared are startling. May God use your post and Jen's book to fight against this industry!

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  4. You know, Jody, with you by my side, I feel like I have a cheerleader in my corner. But it's more than a cheerleader — you are a pray-er, a warrior, an encourager. I am so thankful that you are in my life.

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  5. Many Kudos to Jen for writing about such a taboo subject in Christian circles! Thanks to you also for bringing light to her writing & to the truth that God's heart & purpose is to shine light on those dark areas & set us free!

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