Downtown Disney, June 2013
It’s July 14th, Bastille Day. If I was French I’d be watching fireworks in my beret from my seat near La Tour Eiffel. But alas, I am in Seattle in the US of A and my July 14thlooks quite different. My husband and I are celebrating our anniversary and I think we might go see a Chihuly glass exhibit.
Or we might hang around with the out of town relatives and just enjoy a nice dinner out.
There is cause to celebrate.
We have been married 41 years. Forty one. It is not possible to get to this place in a marriage without some ups and downs, a lot of tears and tantrums and occasional doubts. The tantrums and doubts are mostly mine.
My husband? He’s a gift to me. A gift. Patient, persevering, kind, tactful. He possesses the qualities I lack, for which I am eternally grateful to God.
Why, just the other day I was in the middle of a huff, hiding away at my desk, setting myself up to jot down my angry feelings. You know, complain to the Lord about how He needed to do something about my husband….’cause my out of sorts-ness was clearly his fault.
Then my eyes fell upon my little Moleskine notebook, tucked into the whatnot holder on my desk. I’d written on the front ‘Forty Reasons.’
Last year (at my friend Gwen’s urging) I started to record the qualities that God showed me in my husband Bill, qualities I wanted to remind myself about in the grumpy times (’cause, you know, there are a few grumpy times….).
My husband is:1) patient (with me)2) persevering3) hard-working4) gracious-does not hold up my shortcomings5) diplomatic–will ALWAYS say less6) tender (towards me)7) compassionate–understands my passion to write (Do you see a trend here? How it’s all about me? How blessed I am?)8) loves our 2 children9) is a great grandpa to our 5 grandchildren10) never gives up–will figure out a way11) prays for our children12) serves others (nursing home peeps)13) loves God’s word14) loves his mom (who lives with us)15) makes the bed in the morning without me asking (score!)16) helps and serves without being asked (I remember suitcases…)17) looks for ways to bless others (our friend J.)18) has a passion for his children to know Jesus19) serves others without complaining20) will always find a way…..I think I wrote that once already!)
Well, you get the idea. It’s a growing list–I’m on number 41 now and counting. The practice has been a good reminder to LOOK FOR the good in my husband, to be more attentive to God’s gifts and to be grateful.
If you are married, (or have a roommate or sibling that you share space with) I highly recommend it!
“Bless the Lord, O my soul: and all that is within me, bless his holy name.
2 Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits:
3 Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases;
4 Who redeemeth thy life from destruction; who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies;
5 Who satisfieth thy mouth with good things;
so that thy youth is renewed like the eagle’s.”
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